The Jeremy Kyle programme is now (thankfully) off air – but I
wonder how many times Jesus and his friends would have been on it?
As a baby, Jesus’ paternity was in question, his birth an embarrassment
for many. Joseph and Mary on the Jeremy Kyle
show wanting answers and DNA testing – is Jesus really Joseph’s son?
As a child – he was a tearaway – running off – once to argue
theology at the temple (as you do)! When
he gets a ticking off from his parents – the indignant response ‘didn’t you
know I would be about my father’s business’?
Mary asks him ‘why are you treating us so’? The Jeremy kyle show episode 2 – ‘my teenage
son is out of control’!
When Jesus begins his ministry, he thought nothing of breaking
up the family businesses – ‘follow me’ – demanding the unschooled fisherman leave
their aging father on the boat whilst they go off on a road trip with their new
friend. Jeremy Kyle episode 3 ‘my kids
have destroyed the family business’!
A man spoke to Jesus one day, ‘my daddy has died, I will sign
up with you after I have attended the funeral’.
‘Let the dead bury the dead’ Jesus replied (in love!), ‘follow me’. That Jeremy Kyle episode is entitled, ‘my son
refuses to come to his father’s funeral’.
One day Jesus is teaching a whole load of strangers when one
said ‘your mother and brothers are here’…
‘Who are my mother and brothers?’
The Jeremy kyle episode – our son has publicly disowned us!
If there is one thing I have learnt from ministry it is that
families bring out the very best and the very worst of human experiences.
On the one hand, you have the celebration of love at a wedding,
thanksgiving for the gift of a child, people growing up whole and achieving the
most wonderful things.
But on the other - you have the abuse, the fighting, the
division… the ones who had favourites – leaving a lifetime of deep searching
questions and struggles…
Family – potentially the best place – and potentially the most
difficult.
When the shepherds, led by angels knelt at the crib of Jesus
the bible tells us ‘Mary treasured up all these things, pondering them in her
heart’. Watching Ez mother our kids – I
am not sure there has been a better statement for a mother – One who ‘Treasures
it all and ponders them in her heart’.
The first smile… The first gurgle… The first word… The first step… The first time he sang… The grab of the
finger… The first carpentry work… The first friendship… The first time he
prayed… The first miracle… every single
time – treasured… and pondered upon in the heart.
But… she would also remember Simeon predicting on the special
day of Jesus being presented at the temple he would become ‘a sword that will
pierce your heart’. And though every
difficulty was painful – it was now – this moment – staring at her beautiful,
beaten, broken first-born boy – hanging from a cross that she felt it… the
spear – driven through heart and soul.
Mary, grief stricken, going through the very worst thing a
mother could go through – watching her beloved son tortured and left to die
slowly and painfully on a cross.
There were others at the cross also. Also, grief stricken. Mary of Magdala – devoted to Jesus ever
since he had cast out the seven devils from her.
And there was John – the only remaining male. Woman were not seen as such a risk – and were
able to mourn in public – for the men – there were crosses waiting for the men
that followed Jesus.
The fact John was there show’s how young he would have been –
too young to grow a proper beard – so with the woman was this brave boy who had
given up everything to follow Jesus – and now… his whole world view was
destroyed – his rabbi – dying.
Jesus has spoken to the trinity on behalf of the crowd – ‘father
forgive’ and he has spoken to the terrorist – today – even here on the cross
you will be with me in paradise. And now – with still no words for himself – he
speaks to those he can make out in the mob.
His mother – and his beloved disciple – broken…
And Jesus, who as we have already seen, has treated conventional
family units with a little disdain – does the most incredible thing – he creates
a new family from the cross.
He looks at his mother – sees the tears – the anguish and the
pain… ‘Mother, behold your son’. And then
he sees his disciple – lost, bewildered, broken… ‘son behold your mother’.
A new family begun that very moment upon the cross – a family
for broken mothers, previously demon possessed ladies of the night, for frightened
young disciples, for tax collectors and sinners… (and you and me!) A new family
– not joined by ancestral blood but by the blood of Jesus.
In Jesus time – in the middle east – the family was
everything. The family you were born
into determined your entire life. Your complete
identity. Your entire future. So, one of the most countercultural things
Jesus did was challenge the traditional understanding of family.
Today – where too often we pride ourselves on family values –
we still seem to see family as only the nuclear family and the most important
part of life – and too often – working class kids get working class jobs… our prospects are decided on where we are born
or whom we are born too…
Jesus begins a new family – and if we dare to look around – it
is filled with the people on this screen tonight. It is filled with the people attending all
sorts of different services in town – it is filled with all sorts of cultural
backgrounds – Chinese, African, American to name a few…
And they are our new family…
We are heroes in our family.
I am a pacifist – but if anything would make me fight it would be risk
to my family. I am too often filled
with scarcity when it comes to money – but the moment I spend it all – is if somebody
is desperate and in need in my family.
Jesus loves this – but sees our concept of family as too
narrow.
Jesus has saved us from our families and bought us into a big
one joined by his blood.
It’s a family that looks after the broken and lost.
It’s a family that welcomes the widow and the orphan
The married and the single
Black and white.
Straight and gay
It’s a family where we attempt to do great things for each
other and for the world.
It’s a place where we share bread – eat together – laugh together
– cry together – share resources – live life together
And the way those lives are shared – good news to the society
around us – desperate for safe places to learn who they are – and their divine
purpose…
The name of this beautiful new family… My friends it is the church!
May you find your family – here at the cross – find your family
- with the wondrous third word…
‘Mother behold your Son and Son this is your mother’.
Beautifully written, Ben. Much food for thought!
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